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Kegel’s what the hell are they?

Firstly, why Kegel Exercises?

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The pelvic floor is actually a series of muscles between your hips that act as a hammock holding some of your organs in place, these organs include bowel, bladder and some reproductive organs. A weak pelvic floor can be cause by a number of things, in women it can be a Sid effect of giving birth, but in most cases, it is caused by aging or weight gain.

How can we fix this?

Kegel exercises are a muscle movement that you can do pretty much anywhere at any time. The Goal? To strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. The exercise can be a little tricky at first, finding the right group of muscles can be difficult. The best method starts off with an empty bladder, to start this process of identification is to insert a clean figure into the vagina, then try to squeeze the finger with the vaginal muscles without tensing your stomach or thighs. If you are still unsure feel free to contact your GP or gynecologist and see if they can offer any help.

Usually using a device called Ben Wa Balls or Kegel Balls is the best way to find the right muscle group, Kegel Balls are used as a slightly advance method of Kegel training but there is nothing wrong with starting there. There is a really great set of Kegels by Nalone called Yani which we sell a lot of! Lelo do a great set as well. The benefit of these Kegel sets is they have different weighted balls, so you can swap out for something heavier or lighter depending on your skill level. Other wise if you into something a little more natural and spiritual you can have a look at Yoni’s Range of Crystal Kegel Eggs.

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Now guys you might be wondering “what about me?” well don’t worry we got you covered! It turns out that the same group of muscles a woman uses to clench the vagina can be used to clench the anus and this will work out the Kegel “Sling “as well. As far as Ben Wa Balls are concerned it is NOT recommended to use these anally. The reason for this is there usually isn’t a flare on the Kegel Balls, so it is very likely that they might get “lost” this happens all the time and, in most cases, results in a trip to the ER. But don’t fret there are products on the market that have the same weighted bouncy feeling as a Kegel Ball, Marc Dorcel do a hollow plastic butt plug that contains a weighted ball inside for this exact reason.

What are the benefits you ask?

Well apart from the occasional cheeky orgasm that may occur from stimulating the G or P spot, the benefits are enormous:

For the ladies, stronger vaginal muscles can lead to more intense and satisfying orgasms, but even better than that Kegel exercises can combat urinary incontinence, strengthen the bowl and boost your sexual self-esteem. Kegel training is recommended for women who have just given birth due to the massive amount of trauma this area is subject to during the birthing process.

For men the benefits are similar to prostate stimulation, promotion of blood flow to the genital area, more control over orgasms a great way to combat erectile dysfunction (if this is something that you wish to know more about please have a read of our blog on penis pumps). Strong Kegels can also improve sexual stamina with stronger and longer lasting erections with the added benefit of more powerful orgasms. And lastly for the silver fox’s out there Kegel training can also improve bladder control allowing you to empty your bladder fully without those last-minute dribbles otherwise known as urinary incontinence.

For both men and women the “work out” routine is fairly simple, start buy holding the muscles for up to three second, and try to do 1 – 3 reps of 10. Push that 3 seconds of holding up to about 10 seconds over time and start the smaller reps. Once a day is plenty as overworking these muscles can lead to muscle fatigue leading to worsening the issue we are trying to prevent. Much like anything worth doing its worth doing correctly and will take some time before you see results. Make it a part of your daily routine and in a week or two, you will start to see the pay off take effect.

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The Art Of Shibari (Know The Ropes)

Shibari:The origin of Shibari is thought to lie in Hojo-jutsu, a martial art used by Samurai in Japan in 1400 to restrain prisoners. To show their prisoners respect, they used rope, different tying techniques and patterns to symbolize the social status of their prisoner, as well as the type and severity of the crime.
Hojo-jutsu took on a new, erotic form in the late 19th Century and became Kinbaku (Kinbaku-bi translates as ‘the beauty of tight binding’) – in today’s western world, it’s called Shibari. Shibari techniques tread the line between pain and pleasure, with knots and ties positioned to heighten sensuality and stimulate pressure points, erogenous zones and genitals. Contrasts are central to Shibari: intricate geometric patterns with the natural curves of the body, rough rope against soft skin and vulnerability side by side with strength. The practice can also lead to a trance-like experience for the tied partner and a rush of adrenaline for the artist, or rigger.Shibari takes dedication and patience to master, but you will develop a skill that can lead to a deeper sense of trust and a greater bond between you and your partner.

Want to learn? First, invest in some good quality rope, like Fifty Shades Freed Want to Play? Silky Rope, or try a robust Natural Hemp Rope, this style of rope is less comfortable but is strong enough for advanced suspension. Either are perfect options for practicing the art of restraint.
There are so many tying techniques that it would take us all day to cover them here, but to avoid getting in a tangle we recommend looking online to see if there are any Shibari classes in your area. In South Australia we 100% recommend Adelaide Rope Space they have decades of experience, and are not only professional but super friendly to beginners along with two weekly classes and once a month a class for more advanced students. In addition , they have a performance night  on the 24th Novemberas part of the Feast festival. Lastly the book Two Knotty Boys: Showing You the Ropes has some great tips for getting started.

Safety first Accidents can happen when you’re using any kind of restraint, so it’s hugely important that safety is your top priority when practicing Shibari. Serious injury, can come from inexperience, so it’s vital that you find an experienced practitioner to show you the ropes.

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HeyHeidi Brings You; 6 Simple Ideas to Banish Boring Sex

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Lot’s of relationships go through ho-hum periods in the sex department.  Sex that used to be fun, exciting and crazy hot has now become boring, mundane and predictable.

If this is how you sometimes feel, you’re in a sex rut and it’s time to get the fuck out of it.

Here are 6 new way to be like J.T. and bring the sexy back!

1. MASTURBATE

Not only will masturbation amp up your “wanna do it” mojo, it’s also an amazing self-discovery tool.

 Experiment with your body. Try touching yourself in new ways. You’ll probably be surprised-  finding new spots that feel kinda awesome, different sensations and updated variations to what turns you onoh, that’s some pretty great shit right there.

Make a date with yourself and do some pleasure-based research.

Read about Heidi’s favorite sex toys to masturbate with.

2. COMMUNICATE

Talking about sex is healthy (and hot).

It lets you (and your partner) know a new thing or twenty about each of your likes/desires- and even the opposite – things that aren’t necessarily revving you up.

These conversations make for great foreplay.

Talking about sex, well, it’s just sexy. And. it gets the brain (your largest sex organ!) juices flowing!

3. CHANGE IT UP

If you’re able to do a play-by-play of how the sex goes just about every time you do it then it’s definitely time to switch it up!  

Mix up that boring “A-Z, touch me there, flip, rinse, repeat” sex.  Try a new position. Do it at a different time of the day.  Move away from the bed and into the laundry room (on the machine… on the spin cycle…!).

Variety is the spice of (your totally amazing sex) life!

4. BRING A LITTLE ROLE/FANTASY PLAY INTO THE MIX

We’re taking it back to #2 and communication (remember, YOUR BRAIN IS YOUR LARGEST SEX ORGAN)!  

Talk with your partner about your fantasies, what turns you both on. Add a little of those to your play and voila’! you’ve got some steamy role play action happenin’!  

Role/Fantasy play could be as mild as reliving a past sexy experience to as wild as…. well, as long as you both think it could be kinda hot, I say GO FOR IT!

5. INCORPORATE A SEX TOY

Despite popular belief, sex toys aren’t just for solo play.

Show them how you masturbate with your toy, let them explore your body with it, bring it to the main event…

Since about 75-ish +/- % of female bodies need some form of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, a vibe could be the perfect accompaniment on your quest for better sex!

My personal favorite is the We-Vibe Tango!

If I was ever stranded on an island and could only bring along one vibrator, the Tango, without a doubt, would be the one.  Read my review of the Tango here.

6. PLEASE GET THE FUCK OUT OF YOUR HEAD

This one’s such a biggy- When you cloud your brain with everything-but-the-present thoughts it’s pretty damn difficult to enjoy what’s happening right now.  

Of course the sex is boring.  You’re too busy thinking about everything EXCEPT all the good stuff that’s happening right in front of you that you could totally be enjoying!   

It might sound cliche’, but start being more mindful in the sack and you’ll have better sex.

Get creative, think outside the box, and most importantly, HAVE FUN!  Sex is healthy, it relieves stress, it brings partners together… IT’S JUST PLAIN GOOD!

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Lubricant, The Best Sex Toy!!

Lube! Such a slippery topic, but we believe not only can lubricant make sex better but it’s probably the easiest “Sex Toy” to introduce into a sexual relationship and for that reason its our number one go to for couples looking for something to spice up their sex lives.

There are many different types of lubricant, from edible flavoured lubes, arousal creams and gels that warm or cool, to the good old silicone lubricant. Here at Adult Bliss we often have people ask, “can’t I just use coconut oil?” the short answer is no, we’ll get into why a little later, but there are definitely some more natural alternatives & hybrid lubes out there. The lubrication industry has come a long way since the good old KY jelly days, so today we are going to focus on some of our most commonly asked questions, starting with:

“What’s the point of lube at all?” This is a fair question so let’s do a quick break down on the top few reasons you should introduce a good quality lubricant into your bedroom.

Sometimes you just need a bit of assistance getting the sexy juices flowing, for those of us with forward facing downstairs orifices a sudden dryness can occur for many reasons; stress, low libido, menopause, medications, lower then usual estrogen levels, and sometimes just a lack of arousal, we’ll delve more into the topic of vaginal dryness in a later blog. In the meantime, partners, don’t take it personally! Sometimes it’s hard to switch on that faucet even when you are aroused, and that’s ok, and do you know why it’s ok? Because lube, that’s why!

If you or your partner don’t have an issue with getting those natural juices flowing that doesn’t mean you have to deny yourself the sexy, silky, slippery feel that is a good quality lubricant. The right lubricant can really up the ante on a night of passion. But how do you know what sort of lube is right for you?

“What’s the different between Water Based and Silicone lubricants?!?!”

Silicone:

The properties of Silicone lube allow it to sit on the skin without absorbing in too quickly, providing longer lasting slipperiness than most water-based lubes. The consistency of a silicone lube is usually a bit thicker, making it perfect for anal sex. Unfortunately, it doesn’t wash off very easily as it isn’t soluble in water, this might make it good for shower sex but not so good if you’re hoping for quick clean up afterwards. Silicones slick and slippery hypoallergenic formula is often considered soothing to sensitive areas and can create an almost friction free sexual experience making it an obvious go to lubricant for couples and for male masturbation. For women silicone lube has a very different feel to the natural lubricant provided by the body, so if you’re after a natural feel silicone might not be the lube for you.

But with such a magical sexual liquid available you might ask why you would use anything else. User beware, silicone will stain your clothes and sheets so it’s important to wash it off asap, and unfortunately a post coital clean up can be a bit of a mood killer. However, part of what makes silicone a great lube is also its biggest problem. Silicone’s ability to bond to itself doesn’t bode well for your silicone coated toys, you’ll find combining the two will melt away and warp that expensive velvety silicone coating. While some medical grade silicone toys are compatible with some silicone lubes, it’s better to be safe than sorry, so pay attention to any tips from the manufacturer when you purchase a silicone lube or toy. It’s absolutely safe to use on plastic or glass toys though, so go for gold.

Water-based:

Water-based (WB) lubricants are usually thinner than silicone, giving it a more natural sensation. While water alone tends to remove the skins natural protective layer over time, the properties of Water Based lube do quite the opposite, being reported to have a hydrating and moisturising effect as it absorbs slowly into the skin. This does mean that it wont last as long on the skin as a silicone lube and may need to be applied a few times throughout your sexy time. Despite this, water-based lubricant is our go-to for use with toys as it won’t damage that delicate silicone coating we talked about before or leave sticky residues on your toys or skin. This makes water-based lube very easy to clean off of toys and skin but means it’s not the right lube for shower sex or any other aquatic sexual activities.

Flavoured and edible lubes are also mostly water based, these days there are so many fruity and dessert flavoured options available you can turn your nether regions into a sweet delicacy your partner is sure to enjoy. If oral sex or flavoured lube isn’t your thing, but you still want to make the lube experience a little more interesting you can try an arousal lube. These lubes have a variety of effects like cooling, warming or tingling, start off with a small amount and give them time to take effect, too much too quickly might not have the desired effect. Always read the ingredients list and rinse off immediately if you don’t react well to it.

Anal sex enthusiasts probably already incorporate specially designed lubricant into their sexual routine as the anus isn’t self-lubricating like a vagina. For anal penetration a thicker lubricant is recommended, if you’re not into silicone you can get thicker water-based lubes like the System JO H2O anal lubricant which doesn’t contain any desensitisers or numbing agents which we recommend for first time anal explorers as you don’t want to accidentally do damage you can’t feel.

Both silicone and water based lubes are generally safe to use with condoms and other forms of contraceptives, but it is important to read the ingredient list to make sure there are no nasties in there, if you’re using water based we recommend ones that are glycerine free, and in general avoid using alternatives like moisturising creams and oils (remember we mentioned coconut oil?) as they damage the latex in condoms, and compromise the skins natural pH balance which can result in unpleasant infections or skin damage.

The benefits of lubrication are numerous, so if you’ve ever thought about introducing something new to the bedroom to spice up your sex life and you’re not ready for toys then lube is a great place to start!

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