What is pegging?

So you want to learn How to Peg is a term that was coined around 2000 and originally referred to the act of a cis female using a strap on to anally penetrate and cis male. These days the term has become way more inclusive and now pretty much refers to the use of a strap-on dildo to have anal sex.

If you are wearing a strap on and anally penetrating someone you are the pegger, if you are being anally penetrated by someone wearing a strap on then you are being pegged.  

What’s the point of pegging:

Well like with any act of sex the point is that it feels good! But there is a little more at play here, for example, if you are two cis gendered people of the opposite sex then chances are one of you doesn’t have a penis, right? So pegging can be a great way for cis couple to do a little role reversal.

Power exchange is sexy and a little role play can be A LOT of fun! The act of being penetrated for a lot of straight guys is most likely a fairly unique experience, and relinquishing control can be exhilarating! Why not add some restraints to the mix and really bring out the inner submissive?

For prostate owners, pegging is one of the best ways to get the best O of your life, prostate stimulation can be difficult on your own so why not ask a friend for help?

How to talk about pegging with your partner

So communication is key, we talk about consent and communication all the time here at Adult Bliss, and as with all sexual communication its important to be honest, up front and open about your wants and desires. If you are having a hard time starting the conversation it might be worth watching some porn together, porn is a great ice breaker for conversations like this.

Or maybe you can start by asking your partner if they have any fantasies they want to try? Have a read of HOW TO SUCCESSFULLY TALK ABOUT KINKS WITH YOUR LOVER! This is a great article about communication hard to discuss topics and setting boundaries. Another great article is HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIBIDO WITH COMMUNICATION honestly worth a ready no matter who you are!

The Equipment!

Ok so you have discussed pegging with your partner, and they are keen as a jellybean! What now?

Lube:

Well you going to need a couple of things, and the first and probably most important thing you’ll need is a nice thick anal lubricant!! Anal lube is a little different to normal lube, its thicker, and has a slightly more alkaline PH. Anal lubes often contain muscle relaxers however NEVER EVER use lubricants with numbing agents, please trust us on this one and if you would like to know more check out our COMPLETE BASIC GUIDE TO ANAL PLAY this is probably another really great place to get some extra safety tips for first time anal.

Harness:

You are going to need a harness, makes sense right? There are so many different harnesses on the market and all have their unique takes, some a made for specific body types and comfort and others are made to look cool! I would recommend the comfort route first and find something that looks cool later on down the track, below is a list of really great starter harnesses that are perfect for pegging. My only suggestion; get a harness you can pull tight and adjust and a harness that has interchangeable rings. Also, most good Adult Shops will let you try on a harness if they have a change room for lingerie.

Strap-On-Me Leatherette Harness Curious Bronze

$89.95

This Strap-on-me Curious Harness with its unique design will delight you with its simplicity and comfort of use. Its velcro closure system on the back...… read more

Dong:

Now for the fun part! Typically a pegging dong or dildo would look something like the image to the right.

These are considered more comfortable for anal penetration and great for beginners. They are also usually curved for prostate stimulation and often comse with slight ridging to provide a little extra stimulation where its needed. However, the world is your penis, I mean oyster… when it comes to Dildos they come in all shapes and sizes and if you prefer a different shape or design then go for it!

Love To Love Dildolls Nightfall

$79.95

CLOSER TO THE STARS... Join the mystical twilight world of Starlight and Nightfall ! Cloaked in transparency, Nightfall and Starlight play with their gems to...… read more

Preparations:

Alright, you got your Lube, you have a harness and a nice new sexy dildo, what’s next?

Knowing your limits, its always a good idea to know what your in for, remember there are some great tips in our COMPLETE BASIC GUIDE TO ANAL PLAY article for any first timers. The best advice we can give you is go slow. Don’t push your self and don’t get too worked up if it doesn’t go your way the firt time you try it!

Douching, some people like have a douche before attempting anal, and we can’t fault them, douching with warm not-to-hot water can be a great way to no only clean out your back passage but also relax your muscles. Check out our douching how to guide here! (will need to write one)

Consent & Communication is key!

As always remember when trying something new there can be a lot of pressure to get it right the first time! We are here to remind you that sex should be relaxed, fun, and pleasurable and if its not going the way you hoped your allowed to stop and try again another day!