Strap on harnesses and Bianca Censori, the ambiguous and fashion forward partner of Kanye West have been in the mainstream media in recent years. Not because of a sex tape, but because Bianca has a unique sense of style, starting with wearing a Calexotics strap on shorts as a fashion statement, and has made a habit of flaunting adult wear as streetwear. As many criticisms as one might have about this public display, the real conversation starter here is the versatility of strap on styles. There truly is something for everybody, and by that I mean, every body. No matter what your body type, relationship type or physical ability there are dildo harnesses and aids to match your needs. 

Different Strap on Styles:

Lingerie Straps and Boxer Straps

Styled after underwear, these strap on bases have in built docks to attach a dildo. Whilst these come in a range of sizes this style maybe not be as accessible or comfortable for those with disabilities, curvier people or those who wear plus sizes. 

Thigh/Waist Harness Straps AKA Classic Harness

Tried and tested, classic thigh/waist harnesses have long been a staple due to their stability and customisability. This is the kind of harness that people associate with dildos. Suitable for a range of shapes and sizes, this harness in the OG for a reason. Dildo sizes in this are interchangeable, creating a customised experience for every user.

Thigh Harnesses

Great for folks who are wheelchair bound, these harnesses are easy to wear and to remove. Thigh harnesses are effective and fun for anyone who is interested in trying out this style of toy. Like the positioning of the harnesses, the size and shape of toy attached can be customised to suit the user.

Dock Harness

Compatible with any toy that has a suction cup, these can be great for people who struggle with small or fiddly parts and accessories. No matter the size, shape or style of your dildo, if it has a suction cup, it should match the dock harness.

Jock Strap and Hollow Strap-Ons

Created to sit on the body like a jock strap, these secure dildo designs are designed for couples wanting to try pegging, people suffering from erectile dysfunction, or for lesbian couples looking for ways to incorporate penetrative sex. Again, these styles are customisable for users who are intimidated by, or even excited by, the size of the toys included.

Strapless Strap ons

Designed for people who have vaginas, the strapless dual ended dildo or vibrator features a streamlined experience for those who prefer to avoid the sensation and restriction of straps. Meant to be inserted into one partner first, then to be inserted into the receiving partner, these are a great tool to explore, and have a range of vibrating and non vibrating options available. The size and shape of these are not interchangeable.

Dildo harnesses and accessories are accessible for any person, there are things to suit every couple or person, regardless of physical size, ability or sexual orientation. Sex toys are designed to make you feel good, and toys focused on mutual satisfaction are a perfect example of there being something for every body.

Whilst I wouldn’t recommend using these items as everyday fashion accessories, it is completely up to the individual how harnesses are used. Bianca Censori and Kanye West can invoke many conversations around relationship dynamics and what is appropriate behaviour in public, however here they have unwittingly unveiled the versatility of dildo related accessories. Whether for a lesbian couple, those who have limited physical mobility, people interested in trying pegging, or any person who has a desire to use a strap on can. At the very least, you can say that your new sex toy or harness is a celebrity inspired fashion statement.