Penis Chastity 101 - Everything you need to know!
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Do You Really Know Penis Chastity?
For many, the word “chastity” conjures up images of domineering men in the Middle Ages forcing their wives and daughters to wear barbaric metal devices to preserve their virtue. While the truth of this remains a subject of debate amongst historians and academics, modern practice of chastity, particularly amongst penis owners, appears to be popular.
Manufacturers of chastity devices for penis owners report sales in the thousands each year, with buyers from the fetish and kink communities, but also those who just want to try something a little different. Read on for your 101 guide to penis chastity, covering the what, the why, the how and the where, and finishing with me pointing you in the direction of how you can begin to explore penis chastity yourself.
The What and Why of Penis Chastity
What Is Penis Chastity?
Let’s start at the logical beginning point of a discussion of penis chastity - what is it and why do people like to engage in it? Chastity, by definition, is abstaining from sexual activities according to your state in life. For example, it is most definitively linked to major religions, but is also drawn upon by other moral and philosophical frameworks, and secular beliefs connected to personal development… including some professional sportspeople who refrain from sex to improve performance! Some people may choose to engage in chastity without any support, devices or people to be accountable to, participating in the practice by sheer individual will power. However, others opt for devices that make it impossible for sexual contact with their genitalia.
Types of Penis Chastity
There are literally hundreds of different devices that are designed to enclose the penis, coming in a range of different materials and with different locking mechanisms. Some involve a traditional padlock and key, whilst others can be operated remotely with an app, offering the opportunity for someone on the other side of the planet to control the wearer’s access to their penis.
In saying this, penis chastity does not have to involve another person having control over someone’s engagement in sexual activity; the first vision that comes to mind may be a Dom/sub relationship in which the Dom holds the “key”, but penis chastity involving devices can be a solitary activity, where the individual practices the control required to wear a device and decide when and where it should be removed.
Why would someone want to engage in penis chastity?
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There are a multitude of reasons why someone might be drawn to penis chastity. Some enjoy the deprivation part of it, where there is a feeling of being controlled and not being allowed to engage in sexual activity unless it is under certain conditions. In a patriarchal society where penis owners enjoy sexual freedom, this deprivation aspect can be enticing for some people.
Some penis owners also report that wearing a chastity device supports them in not engaging in sexual activity, allowing them to participate in other activities with a higher level of focus, whether that be work or pleasure related. An extension of smashing the patriarchy, wearing a chastity device typically means that a penis owner cannot urinate standing up as they would usually do; this can elicit feelings of feminisation and further extension of bodily control.
Sensation and Power Dynamics
Others enjoy the sensory aspect that comes with having their penis inside a device. People report feelings of enclosure or encasement, which are very specific to wearing these types of devices as opposed to simply wearing constricting clothing. Finally, some engage in the practice as part of a Dom/sub relationship and the control of access to their penis is held by the Dom. Although it encompasses all the parts I have mentioned above, the development of trust and intimacy that comes from these types of relationships is further enhanced by the types of physically restraining devices used in chastity.
The How and Where of Penis Chastity
Where might you use penis chastity?
Some people engage in it purely during intimate activities. A penis owner can wear the chastity device during the sexual encounter to control the use of their penis, and focus primarily on their partner’s pleasure. This can amplify the sensory experience of other body parts, and if the device is removed during the same encounter, this can lead to more powerful and satisfying orgasms.
Others engage in the practice as part of a Dom/sub relationship, in which the chastity device is controlled by the Dom; when, where and how it is worn and circumstances in which the wearer can engage in sexual activity.
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Long Term Penis Chastity
Furthermore, there are penis owners who wear the devices for extended periods of time outside of the bedroom and BDSM relationships. Modern devices are designed for long term wear specifically for people who wish to engage in the practice in this way. You would never know that your co-worker, that person sitting next to you on the bus or the local shop clerk was wearing such a device in a routine setting for sensations such as encasement and control… and there are definitely people who do!
How to Begin Your Penis Chastity Adventure
After reading all of this, you may be at the point where you would like to have a go at the practice of penis chastity with a device… so where do you begin? There are great online resources from professional Dommes that can help guide you through the process, but here are some key things to consider as you begin:
Purchase a device
Be prepared to try a few different options: there are a multitude of chastity devices on the market, made of different materials and with different additional options such as app connectivity and sounding tubes. By starting out with the simplest option you can decide what material you prefer best, and then work your way up through the bells and whistles that are available.
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Who is controlling the lock?
If you have someone else who is controlling the lock on your device, then creating a chastity contract is a practical way to be on the same page as them and keep yourself safe. Regardless of who is controlling the lock, always have a spare key somewhere safe so that you can get out of your device in case of emergency or if the main key gets lost. Although accident and emergency staff have seen their fair share of penis owners with things attached to them, you may not want to have that particular experience!
What Lube to use
Water based lube is your best friend: we hype up the use of lube in all sexual encounters, and penis chastity and associated devices are no exception! When fitting the device, use a water based lube to make sure everything stays safe and comfortable when fitting and during its wear.
Using water based lube is best because it is easy to wash of both your clothes and the chastity device if you are wearing the device long term and some lube drips while in use.
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FAQs
What is Penis Chastity?
Chastity, by definition, is abstaining from sexual activities according to your state in life. Penis Chastity is this, but specifically for a penis.
What types of Penis Chastity are there?
Some can involve a traditional padlock and key, whilst others can be operated remotely with an app. You can also engage in penis chastity without a cage at all, by just not engaging in any sexual activities by choice, both solo and with someone else.
Why would I want to engage in penis chastity?
There are many reasons why someone might be drawn to penis chastity. Some enjoy the deprivation part of it. Some penis owners report that wearing a chastity device supports them in not engaging in sexual activity, allowing them to participate in other activities with a higher level of focus, whether that be work or pleasure related. Some professional sports people use it as a way to refrain from sex to improve performance!
Can I use penis chastity in a Dom/Sub Relationship?
Where can I use penis chastity?
Some people engage in it purely during intimate activities. A penis owner could wear the chastity device during the sexual encounter to control the use of their penis, and focus primarily on their partner’s pleasure. They can also be used in your everyday life and worn for longer periods of time while you go about your daily life, for either enjoyment from yourself or a partner knowing you are in chastity.
Where can I get a penis chastity?
There are a multitude of chastity devices on the market, many can be found on our website. Ranging from simple silicone ones to hard plastic and even metal ones.
What lube should I be using?
Water based lube is your best friend when it comes to penis chastity. When fitting the device, use a water based lube to make sure everything stays safe and comfortable when fitting and during its wear.
