Mindfulness and masturbation? Am I serious? Yes, yes I am.

As someone with a background in psychology and working in counselling for almost two decades, I know that mindfulness is a popular technique for improving mood, decreasing anxiety and re-connecting people with their bodies and minds. Although it has been popularised by the positive psychology movement, it is actually a practice that is thousands of years old, having it’s roots in Buddhist meditation. So how does this relate to Mindful Masturbation?

So, why should we take an ancient technique that has been adopted by modern mental health practitioners and combine it with masturbation? And how can this be done?

Why You Should Try Mindful Masturbation

As I said before, mindfulness is a technique that can result in positive psychological changes. By being aware of ourselves during mindfulness practice, we can become calmer and gain insights into what we are doing and feeling.

Making adult content has really opened my eyes to how I naturally masturbate and how it makes me feel. Normally, I would feel horny and then get myself off as quick as possible before continuing on with whatever I was doing. Sound familiar?

But when I need to create a video clip of myself masturbating, thirty seconds of frantic footage is not going to cut it. This is how my first few clips of this nature were, to be honest! My solo masturbation clips are now some of my most popular content, and in order to gain success with that, I had to slow things right down. By learning what porn consumers want to see, I also learned what turns me on, how I feel in my body and how to bring myself to climax. The “mindfulness” of my audience has brought more “mindfulness” to my solo play, even when there is no camera rolling.

How to Mindfully Masturbate

Mindful masturbation is fundamentally about being present in your body. As masturbation is still sometimes experienced as something that is shameful and dirty, this can be really challenging. Bringing yourself back into your mind and your body during solo play can bring up lots of emotions, so be prepared for it to be a little uncomfortable in the beginning.

But as with mindfulness in all other settings, once you begin to practice it, it will become easier to relax into it and be completely present in the experience.

There are a number of different ways to go about mindfully masturbating (just as there are in other mindfulness practices). There is no “one size fits all” approach that will help bring you back into your body during your solo play, so here are some suggestions and things to keep in mind:

• Set a “date” with yourself to masturbate, so that you have time to slow down, not be disturbed and feel relaxed to enjoy the experience. Prepare as you would for a date with another person; you are worth it!
• During your normal solo play, bring yourself into the present by purposefully noting the feelings, smells, sounds, tastes and what you see during. Note these things without judgement as the goal is to be present while you masturbate.
  
  
• Experiment with your play; change places, positions, toys and outfits that you would normally associate with masturbation. Again, note the feelings, smells, sounds, tastes and sights.
  
  
• At the end, don’t rush to finish up. Again, rest in your body when you are done, noting how you feel, smell, sound, taste and look. Without any judgement.

Mindful masturbation has brought me a lot of fulfilment in my solo play, and I hope that when you give it a try, it will do the same for you.