How to Treat Premature Ejaculation: Top 7 Best Treatments
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Understanding Premature Ejaculation: Causes, Treatments & Tips
You’re Not Alone: Let’s Talk About It
Alright, let’s talk about premature ejaculation (PE)!
Let’s just get that out there: you are not alone. This is an issue that almost a third of your friends are dealing with too. Unfortunately, because most people won’t talk about it, the silence creates a stigma that tends to make the problem worse.
PE affects over 31% of Australian people who own a penis. That’s a huge portion of the population! And the good news? In most cases, it’s quite treatable—especially when the cause is psychological, such as anxiety.
What Is Premature Ejaculation?
To quote the Harvard Medical School:
“Premature ejaculation occurs when a person with a penis reaches orgasm and ejaculates too quickly and without control. In other words, ejaculation occurs before a person with a penis wants it to happen. It may occur before or after beginning foreplay or intercourse.”
The average time from stimulation to ejaculation for someone with PE is around 1–2 minutes. This can have a serious impact on sexual relationships—reducing pleasure for both you and your partner and causing a knock to your self-esteem.
The Most Common Cause: Anxiety
The leading cause of PE is performance anxiety, often rooted in fears around being “good enough” or meeting a partner’s expectations. If you’re in a relationship, the best starting point is to talk to your partner about how PE makes you feel. You might be surprised at how supportive they are—and simply talking about it can ease the pressure.
Reframe the Focus: Make Your Partner Come First
One simple way to take the pressure off yourself is to help your partner climax before penetrative sex. Use oral sex, a small vibrator, or manual stimulation. Once they’ve had their fill, the pressure’s off, and you can relax into the experience without that creeping anxiety.
In fact, many people with vaginas don’t climax from penetration alone, so external stimulation is often essential anyway. Consider introducing toys like:
Behavioural Techniques to Try
1. The Squeeze Technique
Just before climax, stop all stimulation. Using a thumb and two fingers, gently squeeze the shaft just below the head of the penis for about 20 seconds. This can reduce the urge to climax and reset your arousal. Repeat as needed. Over time, this method can help you regain control.
2. Edging
Edging is another way to learn control. Whether alone or with a partner, stop stimulation when you’re close to climax, take a few deep breaths, and wait until the feeling subsides. Do this repeatedly during masturbation or sex.
Tools like vibrating strokers or sleeves can enhance this practice. Use plenty of lube and focus on controlling your mental arousal as well as the physical.
Products That Can Help
You don’t have to do it all on your own—there are several supportive tools that can help manage PE and improve sexual confidence.
💍 Cock Rings
Cock rings help you maintain stronger erections and can delay ejaculation. They’re easy to use and come in a wide variety of styles and materials.
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🛠 Penis Pumps
Penis pumps can aid with both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Using a pump regularly can boost blood flow, improve erection quality, and rebuild confidence.
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💦 Delay Sprays & Gels
Products like JO Prolonger and [ON] Bold Delay Spray help desensitise the penis, particularly for people who are highly sensitive or intact (uncircumcised). These are great when paired with edging training.
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Get One NowLifestyle Tips to Last Longer
1. Limit Porn Use
While porn can be fun, overuse can create unrealistic sexual expectations and lead to quicker climax during real-life intimacy. Try cutting back and see how your body responds.
2. Breathe Through It
Don’t hold your breath during sex—it builds arousal too quickly. Instead, focus on deep, even breathing to help regulate your pace and manage excitement.
3. Think About Something Else
Distract your mind slightly to take the edge off. This isn’t about zoning out completely, but redirecting your focus when you feel like you're about to finish too soon.
4. Use Condoms
Condoms reduce sensation slightly, helping you last longer. They’re also essential for safe sex, especially in non-monogamous situations.
Communication Is Key
It’s easy to feel embarrassed when it comes to premature ejaculation—but the truth is, not talking about it usually makes it worse. Open, honest communication with your partner is one of the most powerful tools you have—not just for managing PE, but for improving your entire sex life.
Many people fear that bringing up PE will kill the mood or make them seem less confident. But in reality, most partners appreciate the vulnerability and trust it takes to share that you're struggling. It can deepen intimacy and open the door for collaborative problem-solving rather than silent frustration.
Talk Before, During, and After Sex
Before sex: If you're nervous or trying something new like edging or using a delay product, let your partner know what you're working on. That way, they’re not caught off guard and can support you.
During sex: If you're starting to feel anxious or close to climax earlier than expected, don’t panic—say something. A quick, “Hang on, just need to slow down a sec,” or “Can we switch things up for a minute?” can help reset the energy and prevent spiralling into self-criticism.
After sex: Check in. “How was that for you?” or “Anything you’d like more of next time?” This normalizes feedback and gives both of you the opportunity to talk openly without judgment.
When to See a Professional
If you’ve tried these tips and nothing seems to help, it’s time to talk to a doctor or sex therapist. PE is incredibly common and often treatable—but professional guidance can make a big difference, especially if the cause is deeper than anxiety alone.
FAQs
What causes premature ejaculation?
The most common cause is anxiety, but it can also be linked to biological or psychological conditions, hypersensitivity, or relationship issues.
Is PE permanent?
Not at all. With the right tools—both physical and mental—most people see significant improvement or even full resolution of the issue.
Do delay sprays actually work?
Yes! Products like JO Prolonger and ON Bold Delay Spray can help reduce sensitivity. Just make sure to follow the instructions and avoid overuse.
Can I still orgasm with a cock ring on?
Yes. In fact, many people report more intense orgasms when using a cock ring. Just don’t wear it longer than 30 minutes at a time.
Will edging help me last longer during sex?
Absolutely. Training your body to stop and start during arousal helps build control. Over time, you’ll get better at lasting longer without having to stop.
Should I be embarrassed about PE?
Not at all. It’s a very common issue, and talking about it or seeking help is actually a sign of maturity and self-awareness.
