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HeyHeidi Brings You; 6 Simple Ideas to Banish Boring Sex

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Lot’s of relationships go through ho-hum periods in the sex department.  Sex that used to be fun, exciting and crazy hot has now become boring, mundane and predictable.

If this is how you sometimes feel, you’re in a sex rut and it’s time to get the fuck out of it.

Here are 6 new way to be like J.T. and bring the sexy back!

1. MASTURBATE

Not only will masturbation amp up your “wanna do it” mojo, it’s also an amazing self-discovery tool.

 Experiment with your body. Try touching yourself in new ways. You’ll probably be surprised-  finding new spots that feel kinda awesome, different sensations and updated variations to what turns you onoh, that’s some pretty great shit right there.

Make a date with yourself and do some pleasure-based research.

Read about Heidi’s favorite sex toys to masturbate with.

2. COMMUNICATE

Talking about sex is healthy (and hot).

It lets you (and your partner) know a new thing or twenty about each of your likes/desires- and even the opposite – things that aren’t necessarily revving you up.

These conversations make for great foreplay.

Talking about sex, well, it’s just sexy. And. it gets the brain (your largest sex organ!) juices flowing!

3. CHANGE IT UP

If you’re able to do a play-by-play of how the sex goes just about every time you do it then it’s definitely time to switch it up!  

Mix up that boring “A-Z, touch me there, flip, rinse, repeat” sex.  Try a new position. Do it at a different time of the day.  Move away from the bed and into the laundry room (on the machine… on the spin cycle…!).

Variety is the spice of (your totally amazing sex) life!

4. BRING A LITTLE ROLE/FANTASY PLAY INTO THE MIX

We’re taking it back to #2 and communication (remember, YOUR BRAIN IS YOUR LARGEST SEX ORGAN)!  

Talk with your partner about your fantasies, what turns you both on. Add a little of those to your play and voila’! you’ve got some steamy role play action happenin’!  

Role/Fantasy play could be as mild as reliving a past sexy experience to as wild as…. well, as long as you both think it could be kinda hot, I say GO FOR IT!

5. INCORPORATE A SEX TOY

Despite popular belief, sex toys aren’t just for solo play.

Show them how you masturbate with your toy, let them explore your body with it, bring it to the main event…

Since about 75-ish +/- % of female bodies need some form of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, a vibe could be the perfect accompaniment on your quest for better sex!

My personal favorite is the We-Vibe Tango!

If I was ever stranded on an island and could only bring along one vibrator, the Tango, without a doubt, would be the one.  Read my review of the Tango here.

6. PLEASE GET THE FUCK OUT OF YOUR HEAD

This one’s such a biggy- When you cloud your brain with everything-but-the-present thoughts it’s pretty damn difficult to enjoy what’s happening right now.  

Of course the sex is boring.  You’re too busy thinking about everything EXCEPT all the good stuff that’s happening right in front of you that you could totally be enjoying!   

It might sound cliche’, but start being more mindful in the sack and you’ll have better sex.

Get creative, think outside the box, and most importantly, HAVE FUN!  Sex is healthy, it relieves stress, it brings partners together… IT’S JUST PLAIN GOOD!

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Penis Pumps, The Do’s and Don’ts the Why’s and How’s

Penis pumps (or vacuum constriction devices) can be found in just about every adult store across the country. But what do these contraptions even do? You might be surprised to learn their uses extend beyond more than simple penile enlargement, and despite their intimidating appearance are quite safe to use; once you know what you’re doing of course.

The penis is like any other muscle in the body, and just like your other muscles if you work it you’ll make it larger and, in most cases, stronger. Pumps are very commonly purchased for enlargement, using one regularly can increase girth and length, but you might not know that they can have other benefits like helping to combat ED (erectile dysfunction) by promoting blood flow to the penis.

Pipedream pump worx pistol grip

There are many different types of pumps, some have manual triggers or hand pumps, some have pressure gauges to indicate the pressure you are applying and some are even motorized. However we’d say the biggest difference to consider is between an air pump and a water pump. An air pump like the PIPEDREAM PUMPWORX PISTOL-GRIP PUMP is great for use in bed or on the couch while watching TV, it has an easy to read pressure gauge and a triggered hand pump for precision, but you do have to remember to make time to use them. Water pumps like the Bathmate HydroMax X30 can be used in the shower morning or night taking up no extra time out of your day, and fitting in with your routine (if you have one, no judgement). The use of the handy shoulder strap means you can use the HydroMax handsfree while you stand there contemplating life’s great mysteries under the running water.. we mean bathe, while you bathe efficiently wasting as little water as possible.

All good Pumps worth using should have 1 thing in common, a quick release valve, if your pump doesn’t have one of these then we recommend you stop using it right away and invest in a product that does!

So how do you use it? Here’s the short version.

  • Start by placing the pump over your penis and push it against your pelvis at the base, you want a nice firm seal.
  • Allow yourself 30 seconds to pretend you have a robo-penis while you get comfortable, this step isn’t mandatory but comes highly recommended. Machine gun penis is also fine.
  • Apply pressure using the trigger or hand pump that is supplied with the device. Pressure is created as air is pumped out of the chamber.

There are two proven methods with penis pump enlargement.

  • Method 1: Hold the pressure right at the edge of discomfort for the full pumping duration, adding just a little bit of pressure every so often throughout.
  • Method 2: Bring the pressure again right to the edge of discomfort, hold for 30 seconds to a minute and then release. Repeat for 10 – 20 mins.
  • Both methods are effective, but you may find results differ, it’s important to go with what feels right for you. This is the one time that we’re going to tell you to listen to your penis, it will tell you if you’re over doing it.
  • To help with maintaining an erection you can also try putting on a cock ring, some devices even come with their own bands. You’ll want one that is a little loose. We recommend putting one on before pumping, however it is possible to put one on after, but maybe use some lube to aid the process. Loosely place a rubber C-ring around the base of your penis shaft before inserting your penis into the pump. Then slowly increase the pressure using the trigger or hand pump. Once your penis is erect remove the pump. The ring should tighten around the base of your penis while you pump and help you hold the erection during intercourse or masturbation.

A word of caution for first timers.. never apply so much pressure that you feel discomfort or pain and try not to overuse your pump, just like working out at the gym if you go too hard too quickly you risk bruising, swelling and damage to your blood vessels… Google it at your own risk. Penis enlargement takes time and dedication, you will see better longer lasting results if you develop a routine of short sessions, 10 – 20 mins a day 5 – 7 times a week would be a good average.

The Bathmate x20 water based pump

If you’re using a pump prior to foreplay or intercourse, keep in mind that it may remove some of the spontaneity that usually comes with frisky encounters. While it may seem awkward at first, it’s worth talking to your partner about using a penis pump, especially if it’s for medical benefit.

While we’re thinking medically, pumps are quite often recommended by doctors for the treatment of Erectile Dysfunction (ED), after Prostate surgery or for Sexual Anxiety. Sometimes getting an erection is the easy part, but for men with ED or anxiety it can be difficult maintaining that erection. In this case using a pump is a great long term treatment option and it’s considerably cheaper than most medications and implant surgeries. Long term use will promote healthy blood flow, a bit of extra confidence and in most cases stronger and more naturally occurring erections. The synchronous use of a cock ring is also strongly recommended as a medical aid to help the penis stay firm and upright.

If you develop a healthy routine your body and your penis will “learn” how to get and maintain an erection, and over time results will last longer. Results may vary depending on the person so try to keep a record and consult with your GP on your progress.

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