JUMP TO SECTION * * Understanding Consent in Anal Play * Consent Is Ongoing and Specific * Is Anal Sex Safe? * Yes—When Done Right * * Top Tips for Safe Anal Play * 1. Lube Is Non-Negotiable * 2. Avoid Numbing Sprays * 3. Let the Receiver Lead * Should I Be Worried About Cleanliness? * Let’s Talk Douching * When Is the Best Time for Anal? * End on a High Note * Anal Toys for Beginners * Start Small, Stay Safe * Final Thoughts on Anal Play * TL;DR ANAL PLAY: A BEGINNER'S GUIDE TO PLEASURE, CONSENT, AND COMFORT Anal play can be an exciting and deeply pleasurable experience—for everyone. Regardless of your gender or anatomy, the anus is home to a powerhouse of sensitive nerve endings, and for those with prostates, even more pleasure potential lies just a little further in. But before diving in, it’s important to go over a few key basics. UNDERSTANDING CONSENT IN ANAL PLAY CONSENT IS ONGOING AND SPECIFIC Just because someone consents to sex doesn’t mean they’ve consented to anal sex. Anal play is a separate act that should never be assumed or pressured. It requires specific, enthusiastic, and informed consent—every single time. If your partner isn’t comfortable, that’s their boundary, and it must be respected. No one owes anyone anal sex—ever. SMART SNIPPET™ | ANAL SEX TOYS IS ANAL SEX SAFE? YES—WHEN DONE RIGHT Anal sex is safe and pleasurable when approached with care. That means starting small, using the right products, and communicating clearly. If you’re just starting out, DON’T JUMP STRAIGHT INTO PENETRATIVE SEX WITH A LARGE PENIS OR TOY. Instead, consider starting with an ANAL TRAINING KIT, available at most adult stores. These kits include small plugs that gradually increase in size, helping your body get used to the sensations at your own pace. TOP TIPS FOR SAFE ANAL PLAY 1. LUBE IS NON-NEGOTIABLE USE A HIGH-QUALITY LUBRICANT—EVERY TIME. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so applying plenty of lube is essential for both comfort and safety. * For SKIN-ON-SKIN anal sex, try a SILICONE-BASED ANAL LUBE like _JO Premium Anal_—it’s long-lasting and perfect for beginners. * If you’re using CONDOMS OR TOYS MADE OF SILICONE, opt for a WATER-BASED LUBE to prevent material breakdown. 2. AVOID NUMBING SPRAYS While it might sound tempting to use a numbing spray to “get it over with,” this can be dangerous. PAIN IS YOUR BODY’S SIGNAL THAT SOMETHING ISN’T RIGHT—and numbing it removes that vital feedback. Instead, try a RELAXING SPRAY OR SERUM like _PJUR Back Door_, which helps reduce anxiety and soften the muscles without interfering with sensation. 3. LET THE RECEIVER LEAD Whoever is being penetrated should be in control—of the pace, depth, and timing. Trust, communication, and patience go a long way. Remember: CONSENT CAN BE WITHDRAWN AT ANY TIME. PRODUCT EMBED | JO H2O ANAL LUBRICANT SHOULD I BE WORRIED ABOUT CLEANLINESS? LET’S TALK DOUCHING Some people avoid anal sex because they worry it’s “dirty.” While it’s perfectly normal to have some concerns, ANAL DOUCHING is an option for those who want to feel a little more prepared. * ANAL DOUCHES are designed to gently rinse the rectum with warm water. * Cleaning out beforehand can reduce anxiety, but it’s not required—MANY PEOPLE ENJOY ANAL WITHOUT DOUCHING. * Avoid over-douching, which can cause irritation. Once is usually enough. * Check out our article on douching for more info > IMPORTANT: Never use vaginal douches for anal play, and avoid douching vaginally unless advised by a doctor. WHEN IS THE BEST TIME FOR ANAL? END ON A HIGH NOTE Trying anal sex at the END OF A SESSION rather than the beginning can lead to a more enjoyable experience. After one or two orgasms, your body is relaxed and more receptive to new sensations. Genital stimulation beforehand can also help reduce discomfort and increase pleasure. SMART SNIPPET™ | LUBE ANAL TOYS FOR BEGINNERS START SMALL, STAY SAFE If you’re new to anal, we highly recommend checking out beginner-friendly toys. Look for: * SLIM SILICONE BUTT PLUGS with a flared base (for safety) * TRAINING KITS that help you work your way up gradually * VIBRATING PLUGS for added stimulation > Pro tip: Always use LUBRICANT and never insert anything without a FLARED BASE—you don’t want to make an unexpected trip to the ER! ------------------------- FINAL THOUGHTS ON ANAL PLAY Anal play can be incredibly rewarding—but only if approached with care, communication, and consent. Whether you’re exploring solo or with a partner, take your time, listen to your body, and invest in quality products that make the experience safe and pleasurable. TL;DR